The One on Self-care

Dear reader,

Firstly I’d like to apologise for the lack of updates and new stories on our Tapestry website/e-zine. I’ve had a relapse and am taking a break to adjust to new dosages and medication, and generally to regain some sense of normality and function in my life.

I’ve been recuperating by taking baby steps  (therapy has been a lifesaver), but I needed to set aside some commitments for the time being, sadly.

As disruptive as relapse can get, I’ve learnt so much more about myself. And I’m grateful for this season. Nothing is ever wasted as long as we learn something from it.

Right now I’m learning how to take care of “me” and that involves some shifting of priorities. Slowly but surely, I shall regain my stamina and strength, and be back publishing and writing mental health related stories of hope and dignity 🙂

Secondly, thank you for bearing with my limitations. And for being so supportive and understanding all this while. I feel so very blessed to be a in community of kindness and support. Recovery is so much easier that way. The way to overcome stigma is by being real and authentic about our struggles, and you’ve certainly empowered me to be such. Thank you thank you thank you 🙂

I’m still regularly updating Tapestry’s Facebook page whenever I am able to. So if you’d like to stay in touch and/or keep updated on events, news and our workshops, or just in need of some uplifting quotes — you’re welcome to come follow us!

Much love and gratitude,


10 thoughts on “The One on Self-care

  • July 21, 2016 at 5:35 PM

    Just like to send some love your way, Nicole. Thank you for keeping it real and for setting up such a page on Facebook. Take good care of yourself. xoxo

  • July 21, 2016 at 6:10 PM

    Aw. Keep on keeping on Nicole, I’ll agree on the therapy bit – as much as I’ll never be publicly open abt it (cos, stigma, or maybe I need to grow thicker skin hahaha), my closest friends know that I go for therapy and … actually I secretly like it for the routine & emotional stability it puts into my life, heh.

    PS. Hahaha – I think I’ll stick to going as ‘Dee’ on this platform. Since I’ve gone as ‘Dee’ for that article, I’ve used it sporadically for anonymity online in other spaces as well, and it’s been growing on me, I love it 😀

    <3 x

  • October 13, 2016 at 8:03 AM

    I know what going through a relapse is like. Hugs. I’m also in a very severe relapse, maybe the worst in my fight with depression which has been more than 3.5 years. Sadly I have very little support with friendship n friends n my therapist, though gd n I still see regularly, has not been giving me therapy. N I don’t have the safety n comfort of healing environment in hospital (the only one I’m willing to go to is sgh n there’s a long queue n one misstep n I’ll be in the nightmare ward at imh… They have better wards but I don’t qualify… So I don’t have a hospital to go to…) Either I’m not stable enough for therapy or sth like tt. N he’s so busy he cannot tend to my psychological n emotional needs. He’s too tired to pick them up. I need help to go through what I’m gng through n I dunno which way to turn. I call SOS like 5 times a day to just cope. N I quite desperately want it to end.

  • October 13, 2016 at 8:18 AM

    Dear Liz, it’s so tough at times and I’m sorry to hear about your relapse. Please know that there are people who do care for you. I know sometimes it may not feel like it – usually it’s just our depression discolouring everything.

    As for finding a therapist, there are some helplines on our resources page which have been helpful for our readers. Perhaps you might consider those as alternatives in between visits to the psychologist?

    Please email me? I’d like to keep in touch with you. Much love, Nicole.

  • November 6, 2016 at 10:47 AM

    Can me a care giver of 2 mental patients viz my wife major depressive disorder and my elder son bipolar with generalized anxiety disorder join this post?

  • November 7, 2016 at 7:55 AM

    Hi I hv a teenage daughter who being diagnose major depression. She did self hurt n had sucidice thoughts very often. It really hurt me very much n i am loss of how to help her to pull thru. Maybe could anyone give me an advice. Pls pls

  • November 7, 2016 at 3:36 PM

    Hi Janet, sorry to hear this.. it must be so tough and stressful to deal with. Unfortunately we are not able to advice fully because we don’t know the entire situation. Is she currently supported by a medical professional? Do email us and we can discuss this further – gmail . com

  • November 7, 2016 at 3:37 PM

    Hi Steven, we welcome all to join in the mental health conversation. 🙂 If you would like to share your thoughts in detail, do drop us an email at @gmail.

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